Freddie and Annie

A Chance UK Mentor Story


Since having a mentor “he is more mature, has less tantrums, he is calmer, more focused and has better social skills”, Freddie’s mum. 
Referral:

At the time of referral, Freddie was living with his mum, two younger half-siblings and step-dad. He was no longer in contact with his biological father, who had been abusive. Freddie’s school also school had concerns that his step-dad was violent as well.

Freddie had faced significant instability, having moved house and schools several times, which impacted on his behaviour. He was at risk of permanent exclusion facing regular suspensions from school. He lashed out, invaded people’s personal space and made unkind remarks to other children.

His mum was also concerned about his inability to follow instructions and his difficulties with social interactions.

His self-esteem and confidence were low meaning Freddie found it difficult to accept praise, becoming emotional when given any positive feedback.

Mentoring:

The programme’s team at Chance UK matched Freddie with Annie. An energetic and creative young woman, Annie was able Freddie with lots of problem-free time.

Annie was a positive role model for Freddie. She was emotionally strong and disciplined in setting and maintaining boundaries. She was a good match for Freddie because of her resilience and ability to cope well with child protection concerns.

Freddie and Annie established a strong relationship very quickly. Discovering their similar sense of humour they engaged in lots of fun activities. They enjoyed football, drama, bowling and creative writing to name but a few.

At the three month goal setting meeting, Freddie demonstrated an interest in writing and in business so they decided to write their own book together, which they would sell to raise money for charity.

 

Impact:

Freddie learnt to be more self-aware and to remain calm and quiet in the appropriate settings, including the library and classroom’s. He learnt how to keep himself safe when outdoors and how to keep suitable boundaries with strangers.

Freddie became better at managing his emotions and willing to try new activities, and discovering that many he really enjoyed.

His social skills improved and Freddie often demonstrated to his mentor what a kind and thoughtful young man he is.

During the mentoring year, Freddie was able to return to school full time. He was not excluded from school during Year 6. He completed his SATs and did really well. Freddie is a more confident boy now and has much better social skills and self-awareness.

 

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